Raising Confident Kids in a Confusing World

A Parent's Guide to Grounding Identity in Christ

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Inspires and equips parents to help their children find their identity in being made and loved by Jesus. Useful for any stage of parenting.

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Description

As our children grow up, they hear many conflicting messages about who they are. They are told that they can define themselves by their achievements or popularity, or by how they feel, and that sexuality, morality and gender are just questions of personal choice.

Too often, Christian parents feel nervous and intimidated about engaging with their children on the subjects of bodies, gender, sexuality and their sense of self.

This warm and realistic book helps parents to show their children that the Bible has better answers than our culture on these topics, which are neither surprising nor confusing to our creator God.

Full of biblical truth, practical wisdom and discussion questions, this book will inspire and equip parents to help their children find their identity in being made and loved by Jesus. An identity based on God's love will help Children to have both a positive and a realistic view of themselves, and it will give them confidence to live by faith in a secular world.

The real-life stories contained in the book are drawn from every stage of family life, from birth through to the teenage years, making it a valuable resource for any parent.

It can helpfully be read alone, as a couple or in a group with others from your church.

Author Ed Drew is the Director of Faith in Kids, which produces a range of resources for families and kid's ministry, including a series related to this book, entitled "Who Am I?", which also includes Sunday School lessons and podcasts.

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Contents

  • 1. This Is Me
    2. What They Do Is Not Who They Are
    3. Made to Belong
    4. Made to Love
    5. It’s Ok to Not Feel Ok
    6. Truly Body Positive
    7. I Am Forgiven
    8. I Can Change
    9. I Will Be Like Jesus

Specification

Contributors Ed Drew
ISBN 9781784988678
Format Paperback
First published May 2023
Dimensions 129mm x 198mm x 13mm
Weight 0.19 kg
Language English
Pages 176
Publisher The Good Book Company
Endorsements

Jonty and Linda Allcock

Jonty is the pastor of The Globe Church, London; Linda is the author of Deeper Still

Brilliant, well-researched, laugh-out-loud funny and empowering. Ed Drew is the perfect companion (ally, teacher, confidante and friend) for the crazy roller coaster that we call parenting.


Steve Midgley

Executive Director, Biblical Counselling UK; senior minister, Christ Church, Cambridge

There are so many reasons to love this book. It takes complicated Bible truths and applies them to the nitty-gritty of everyday parenting. It tackles the hardest and most confusing contemporary challenges and responds with measured, biblical wisdom. Filled with real-life stories that are told with insight and compassion (and much delightful humour), Ed Drew’s book is for parents who want to help their children build an identity in which confidence is rooted not in themselves but in the God who created them and the Saviour who came to redeem them.


Ed Shaw

Pastor of Emmanuel City Centre, Bristol & Co-Founder of www.livingout.org

No Christian should be allowed to have children without first being inspired and equipped by this wonderfully realistic and practical book!


Customer reviews


Sep 15, 2023

“Disciple with Confidence”

{See the full post here: https://www.amberthiessen.com/post/raising-confident-kids-in-a-confusing-world-book-review}

In a cultural environment that’s evolving faster than light-speed, the weight of parenthood is overwhelming. It’s not merely the hip new slang to learn, but clearly and confidently answering the deeper existential questions about our identity and purpose.

There’s a rivalry for our children’s attention and formation from the world around us. Movies, video games, books, social media, and education systems clamour for position to make the most of their influence. As parents, we want to be proactive in shaping our children's worldview and not leave it to the last minute. If we do, we’re cast among the restless, noisy crowd of sources.

Ed Drew's book, Raising Confident Kids in a Confusing World, is a valuable resource that can guide us.

This book helps you, the parent, understand your identity in Christ, then in turn teach your children. The author shows you how gospel truths shape your parenting, equipping you to lead your children confidently in who they are in Christ.

The author weaves in stories with biblical examples of how the believer’s identity is found in Christ. You’ll find 4 questions for reflection at the end of each chapter to help you process the material.

This book is best suited for parents of younger - middle years children, although any stage would benefit, particularly if you’re beginning your parenting journey, to help give you a firm foundation of the gospel and how to instill a biblically faithful mindset for your young ones.

*A big thanks to The Good Book Company for the complimentary copy of the book and the opportunity to post an honest review!


Aug 16, 2023

“Wish the second half was as good as the first.”

Funny, relatable, and encouraging. While I didn’t agree with everything the author said, and would’ve liked more clarification on a few points, overall it was a good read. The first half was actually quite excellent. Great practical advice for parents from a Biblical standpoint. I wish the second half of the book was as good as the first.

Some of my favorite quotes from the book:
Pg 37 …our greatest aim and highest ambition for our kids must not be that they be well-behaved, well-liked, or well-educated, but that, by faith in Jesus, they be children of God.

Pg 57 And that means our kids need to have a sense that they are sinners, but they also need to know that grace is always available, always triumphs, and always brings a joy that cannot be found anywhere else.

Pg 68 These moments are not simply irritations that disrupt my life (though they do). These are opportunities when God is calling us to something bigger than our own comfort. These are the moments when God calls us to love our children and not give in to the quick (shouted, angry, impatient) solutions but rather to address the sin as sin and point them towards restoration and forgiveness and a fresh start.

Pg 75 So our parenting needs to focus on the heart, not on the behavior. This may sound obvious, but it is harder, it is more frustrating, and it required deliberate effort. We will always tend towards modifying our kids’ behavior rather than helping them think about their heart.

Pg 157 In God we have a rock—and unshifting solid and secure foundation on which to build our lives. Every storm and turbulence in our children’s lives is an opportunity to invite them to stand on the rock next to us.

Pg 158 Leaving our children to discern their identity from their inner selves is to leave them in a situation that is unsayable, uncertain and even arbitrary. We need instead to show them who God says they are, how God has made them, and who God calls them to become.


Jun 21, 2023

“Helpful and Non-Prescriptive”

In this parenting book, Ed Drew shares insights from the Bible and from his personal experiences, highlighting ways that parents can help their kids thrive by instilling confidence in them and helping them ground their identity in Christ, rather than in fleeting measures of popularity or success. Drew writes in an engaging, down-to-earth style, and he shares personal stories without sharing too many details about his kids.

Drew emphasizes the importance of developing a grace-based family culture, and he writes about a variety of different issues, such as kids struggling with friendships, feeling socially isolated, and needing the influence of adults outside of their family. Instead of giving a list of things to do or a list of conversations to have, Drew helps parents think through ways that they can create positive family cultures and have pathways of communication with their kids as they get older. I particularly appreciated the chapter about how parents can help their children navigate suffering, since so many resources neglect this issue.

Drew also address some tough issues towards the end. He discusses the impact of body image struggles on both girls and boys, and there are also chapters on sexuality and gender. Those chapters are too short and simple to engage with all angles of the debate or different questions that arise, but they will help Christian parents think through how to approach these conversations in calm and assured ways, instead of being reactionary.

Overall, this is a helpful guide that will appeal to Christian parents who want encouragement and wisdom for building their children's confidence and resilience. It's best for parents of younger kids, although the general principles apply throughout the lifespan, and people who are tired of parenting books with authoritative, fear-based messages will appreciate this book's non-prescriptive approach.

Note: I received a free copy from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.


Jun 13, 2023

“Excellent both spiritually & practically”

As a children’s pastor I found this book useful, both spiritually and practically on how to talk to children and parents about current world trends. I will be recommending it all the parents in my church.


Jun 1, 2023

“Helpful and Gospel-Centered Resource”

Identity is the headline of the era. Kids have always struggled with finding their identity, but today's culture has some new challenges and pressures when it comes to figuring that out.

It's our job as parents to teach our kids the truth about who they are in a world that tries to tell them the burden is on them to construct an acceptable identity. This book is an excellent resource for anyone who is raising or influencing kids.

First covering the Gospel and the sin in our hearts that we need to be saved from, and then moving onto topics like friendship, sex, marriage, and gender, Ed Drew walks us through how to love our kids in truth and point them to Christ.

In addition to the chapter discussion questions and all the free resources at their Faith In Kids website, this is a great book to have on hand as you navigate the turbulent seas our children must walk through with our help.

Identity is too important to ignore and I would recommend this book to get you started.


May 19, 2023

“Superb Resource for Parents Seeking to Teach Their Children to Rely on Their God-Given Identity”

In my opinion, Ed Drew is one of the best authors and speakers at the moment for parenting resources for those seeking to teach Christian doctrine to their children in an accessible and timely way. The Faith in Kids new series about identity is a superb way to teach children about their God-given identity as children of God, those in Christ. This new book by Ed Drew, aimed at equipping parents, is just fantastic. It's got a good level of depth while remaining accessible, whether you've read a lot of Christian books or if this is your first. In a confusing world where so many ideas and worldviews will try to claim superiority and moral acceptance, we need to share the goodness and truth of the gospel. We need our children to understand that they can be confident in their identity, regardless of the cost, because it is incomparably good.


May 15, 2023

“Helps establish parenting perspective through the lens of the Gospel”

This book provides a great framework for grounding your kids identity in Christ. It touches on many topics that can skew our understanding of ourselves and God. The book gave a great explanation of why we want to continually have these conversations with our kids and how to begin. I would have appreciated a bit of a deeper dive on gender given that these identity issues are on the rise while also being something most older generations (parents) have not dealt with personally, but I also understand that wasn’t the solo goal of this book. I think the author did a great job of explaining each identity foundation while also pointing parents back to open conversations with their children and God. I especially appreciated the call to have faith and trust that our God is faithful and powerful over all things.


May 2, 2023

“Timely and timeless book on parenting”

Raising Confident Kids in a Confusing World by Ed Drew is a new release from @thegoodbookcompanyusa. Drew is the Director of @faithinkids, which exists to help parents and churches raise children together to trust in Christ. And this book certainly helps in that endeavor! Drew has written a book to help Christian parents remember their own identity in Christ in order to guide their kids toward a confident trust in the God who made them who they are. Parents are exhorted to yearn for their child(ren)’s salvation as our main ambition. Drew also provides practical ways to converse with our kids about truth while navigating our confusing world that celebrates sin and following one’s heart, covering topics relevant to younger children and teenagers alike: finding one’s identity in Christ; establishing godly habits; understanding puberty and the maturation process; and dealing with friendships, sex, marriage, and gender identity. This is both a timely and timeless resource for parents who aim to help their kids walk toward an eternal home with confidence. •••

Drew writes, “Your family culture can increasingly reflect Jesus' lordship over you. Your parenting can increasingly reflect the Shepherd's love for you. This is a confusing world, for kids and for their parents. There's nothing like parenting to humble us. But that's ok—in Jesus, we have everything we need to raise confident kids. Keep going. He has you. You are his. This is who you are.”


Apr 30, 2023

“Great Resource for Christian Parents”

In his book "Raising Confident Kids in a Confusing World: A Parent's Guide to Grounding Identity in Christ", Ed Drew does a great job at discussing some of the current issues in todays world that parents are dealing with, and how to respond to them biblically.
Full of biblical references, this book encourages parents to stand on God's truth, and continually point your kids to Jesus.
The world can be a confusing place to raise children, especially in these days where a number of different ideologies are making their way into the minds of young children, even being pushed and forced.
Resources like this can help Christian parents be equipped and prepared to respond with biblical wisdom, and help your children to navigate the world around them.
This quick, easy to read book is a great start to opening up discussions and conversations within your home.

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