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My friend just became a Christian. Now what?

Gary Millar | 13 Jan 2020

There are few things more exciting than seeing a friend brought to new life in the Lord Jesus Christ! It’s often the culmination of months and years of praying, asking and answering questions, despairing, persevering and generally stressing about the fact that he/she hasn’t yet had his/her eyes opened to the beauty of our God—Father, Son and Spirit— through the gospel. The problem is that for all this time we have been focused on one thing—that moment when God works in our friend’s life to enable them to trust the Lord Jesus—so much so that when they do take that step, it can leave us feeling slightly wrong footed and even panicky. ‘err… ok, that’s brilliant­—BUT WHAT DO I DO NOW?’

I think there are four key things we want to help new Christians to do… 

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1) Get established 

The first thing that needs to happen when someone comes to know Christ is that they need to get established. By that I mean that they need to know the significance and implications of what God has done in uniting them to Christ by faith, and to make sure that they have understood the basic “building blocks” of Christianity. So, for example, it’s vital to grasp the fact that God is a Trinity; that he has drawn us into a relationship with him; that he has changed us, is changing and will change us (and will never let us go); that we are now part of the church, the “body of Christ”; and that from now on, every part of our life is to be lived under Christ’s authority. And how does this happen? I think it is very important for new Christians to meet up with someone (like you!) to work through these key areas during the first few weeks and months of their Christian life. 

2) Get connected

As important as it is for you (or someone else) to meet one to one with a new believer, in the long term it is even more important for them to be connected with a local church—somewhere where the Bible is clearly explained and the gospel clearly taught and applied, and where there are people to be encouraged by and to encourage. Christianity is a “team sport”, and even though we come to faith as individuals, it’s important to realise that as soon as we trust Jesus, we become part of his family. Sometimes for new Christians, their first taste of church is fantastic, and they are amazed at what they’ve been missing. At other times, it can be really hard to break into a new group—starting to feel at home in a local church family may be a real struggle. That’s why it’s so important that we do everything we can to help our friend get connected. 

3) Get into good routines

It may seem obvious, but it is very important: we need to help new Christians get into healthy routines—making church a priority in their week, becoming part of a regular small group, reading the Bible every day, thinking over how life is going, and praying consistently for God to do his gospel work in them and others. The challenge is that many people have had no experience whatsoever of the rhythms of the Christian life before becoming a Christian, and so all this can come as a bit of a shock (and even seem a bit legalistic). We can help by patiently explaining the reasons behind these patterns and encouraging our friend to stick to them.

4) Get “going”

The final way we can help new Christians is by encouraging them to start serving others right from the start. The primary way in which we do that (both for other Christians and for those who don’t yet know Christ) is by speaking the gospel into people’s lives, but there are also loads of other opportunities to serve others for the sake of Christ in the local church. One thing we can do is gently point our friend to those opportunities and then help them to serve well. That may mean helping to “train” them as we explain what’s expected of them, or cheering them on, or simply encouraging them to keep going when it’s tough. But whatever it looks like, the main thing is that we encourage new Christians to “go”, by serving others as Christ has served us. 

The early days of walking with Jesus can be challenging, exciting, bewildering and just plain hard. That’s why our friends need us to walk with them, and to help them to get set up for the long haul, connected with a local church, with healthy routines and a desire to serve other people. 

Whether you are a new Christian, or have been for a while and feel in need of a refresher, or have been around church for years but things have only just clicked into place for you, Gary Millar’s new book Need to Know will give you the essentials—what you really need to know if you’re going to follow Jesus. Gary Millar shows readers how letting the fundamental truths of the gospel take root in our hearts changes everything about the way we see God, ourselves and the world around us. He explores what this miraculous change on the inside looks like on the outside as we live our lives shaped around gospel priorities. Buy it here.

Gary Millar

Gary Millar is the Principal of Queensland Theological College in Brisbane, Australia. He teaches Old Testament, Biblical Theology, and Preaching. Before taking up the post as Principal, he was a pastor for 17 years in both Ireland and Northern Ireland. He is married to Fiona, and they have 3 children.

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